When We Face Uncertainty

“Fear, uncertainty, and discomfort are your compasses toward growth. We must let go of the life we had planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.” -Joseph Campbell

It’s important to live in the moment. Be present. Don’t ponder the past or fret about the future. Lately, I’ve been struggling with this as I’ve been focusing so much on the future.

My husband and I recently sold our home and it’s the first time we’ve been through this process. It’s very exciting!…yet, scary, because we haven’t decided where we’re going to live next. And we have seven weeks until we have to move out.

Our initial plan when selling the house, was to move to Colorado from Wisconsin. The idea for moving was to enjoy more time in the sun, try something adventurous, live the outdoor lover’s dream, and of course, live near the mountains.

I’m originally from California and I always imagined myself moving back west. Especially back to the sunshine and mountains.

My journey has taken me in directions I never would’ve imagined. I moved to Chicago, then came back to Wisconsin to finish my college education, met a great guy that turned out to be my husband, and we started a family. Of course, my intentions were to move back west immediately after I was done with college.

To make a long story short, I’m still in Wisconsin years after graduation. And now that I’ve discovered simple living, I’ve been focusing on the following when considering the next move…

Live life to the fullest and without regret
Simple living brings the great benefit of living a fuller life and helps us realize to live a life without regret. Try a new hobby, travel to that place you’ve always wanted to explore, or learn a new skill. Take that chance and see how you grow.

The move to Colorado would be a great opportunity and there would be no regret for trying something new. However, it’s harder for my husband and I to make this decision when we have a two year old and the majority of family is where we are.

Concentrate on what’s truly important
Simple living brings clarity to what’s truly important. Things are just things and there is more value in people, our health, time, and whatever you find important. However, can our desires be less important than the desires of the greater good?

For example, is the wish to move out west and experience life outside a comfort zone selfish, instead of thinking what’s best for the family? We’ve had some protestors and we love them all dearly, so it makes this decision harder. The uncertainty of not knowing if my daughter will adapt well is also difficult.

Maintain happiness and peace
One of my favorite benefits of simple living is the amount of happiness and peace it brings. It gives us permission to focus on a better way of living without life’s clutter. And once we realize we don’t have to accumulate so much stuff or wear the “busy badge”, then we feel the weight of expectations lift up and peace and happiness settle in.

I want to maintain this sense of peace and happiness. Moving is stressful, especially with a deadline and with a family. There’s uncertainty about moving to another location and whether it would bring greater happiness and peace.

These points are difficult to fulfill all at the same time and there is a lot of uncertainty with the next move.

Sometimes life’s decisions feels like riding a teeter totter and it’s hard to find how to balance it. Within the last couple of months, I’ve been going back and forth trying to figure out how to make a decision about the move individually and collectively with my husband.

What I am certain about is that everything will work out. It always does. Bumps in the road eventually smooth out (and this is a small one) and it’s best to keep moving forward. Uncertainty brings growth and growth brings greater wisdom and character.

Thanks for reading and I’ll update you on where the journey continues…

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